Marital communication issues and divorce
It has always been in human nature to be attracted to another; a classic tale of boy met a girl. It is also in human nature to love beautiful things. For that reason, humans sometimes have no thought process when it comes to choosing beautiful things and thus fail to consider the consequences of their actions.
In the days of our grandfathers, a girl you love sometimes does not pass the family likeness test and therefore you were sometimes forced to look for another girl. Maybe father likes her and mother hates her, or mother loves her and father hates her or sister hates her, but brother loves her and it goes on. Most families vetted the other family like politicians get vetted for a public office. That attitude is still there but the people whose choices it is to make have changed. If father or mother loves her or him or hates him or her for that matter, it does not really matter, the only thing matters to you, is he or she. I am eighteen now and I can make my own decisions, so they say.
At this point in life not even the gods can stop their love for each other. Nevertheless, it is safe to say that it is the hormones talking. Because even when they get married as they planned to do anyway, it is a less than 50% chance that they will stay married after four. Deem to communication issues and lack of understanding one another. In fact, the word breakup is just as common and natural as is the word water. You can see that on television and everywhere now. This is because we as a society have made it so. The moral dilemma and shame that used to follow a devoice person have gone from society. The popular saying to a divorce person now is, “It's ok you will find someone else, I did not like him/her anyway and you can do better.” It is hard to laugh at this because Cousin Jay tries every trick in the books to break them up except he could not say it allow, for fear of becoming the family bad guy. Now the “I could have or I should have” are always the last words.
So why get married, or when should you get married? The answer is, when you are of age. However, why are there many divorces? The answer is seen foolish, if you say they do not love each other anymore. Because the next question is, why were they married then? On the other hand, where has the love gone? The truth is that the love has not gone anywhere, but the people have changed and found new interests and other beautiful things or people. The pledge of allegiance is seen more secret than “for better or worse and in sickness and in health.” This tells you everything you need to know about how wary marriage has become.
It is true that people get married for all sorts of reasons, some of which have to do with the fact that your friends have gotten married, you are afraid you will not meet anyone so you married anyone, your family pressures you, and most of all love at first sight. All of these circumstances are safe to say have divorce written all over them. The factors that contribute to the divorces are lack of communication with each other, as you get older, misunderstanding one another, and lack of desire for each other. Is not this a little strange that birthdays, anniversary, and Valentine day cause more breakup and divorces than most fidelity in marriage.
The take here is that, if you love someone once you still love him or her now, but you both must be willing to upgrade or you will continue to not be on the same page and the result is a divorce. For every disagreement make a compromise and for every miscommunication corrections will help, for every missed holiday, a makeup is better, honesty first, then self-protection second and ask for forgiveness last, if you most want to stay together until death do you part.